I Don't Need Them

 Last night, Bendy and I got a hotel room. Oh yes, folks, we’re moving into the big time now. LOL


Upon arriving, he pulled out his guitar and sang me the new comedy song he wrote to “try out his material” on someone. I was rolling, because I was laughing so hard. Oh dear cheeze itz, this man is funny as shit.

Once he was done with that, we moved on to talking about our fetishes and kinks. Ya know, with our clothes on, because it would have been far too distracting clothes off and we both needed to focus on what the other was saying.

Let’s just say we’re well suited and move on with the evening.

I jumped his ass. Fully clothed. I pushed this man back and mounted him. Then I pushed his hands over his head and told him to leave them there.

He knew the safewords, we were going to have some fun. He he he

“Yes, ma’am” he groaned

I then proceeded to dry hump this man like nobody’s business. He was moaning, I was grinning, and he kept his hands right where I told him to, like a good boy.

I told him to take his shirt off, so he did so.

Look, I’m not telling you the whole story.

I will say no sex happened, and I do mean none ... I'm not talking that Bill Clinton nonsense.

There were orgasms though. He he he

For both of us, because I’m a kind woman….even though I denied him a few times before I let him do it.

Denial of orgasm? Getting him close and then stopping. Fuck, I love the frustration it caused in him. It’s turning me on just thinking about it.

Then, we cuddled and talked.

More adult fun, my shirt came off, but never my pants. He wasn’t getting that, oh no. He has to earn it. 😛

Oh yes, people, ye ole Debster is truly enjoying allowing the dominant out again.

He drove me home, we said goodnight, and planned our next date for this Friday.

He’s coming to my house this time, I have all the fun toys here!

Massage table
Inversion table
Dildos

Crops

Nipple Clamps
Collar and leash
I could go on….

Life is moving forward… I have three good men in my life who treat me well and with a great amount of respect.

I’m set, I don’t need AFF. It was a crutch and time to let it go.

Comments

  1. Saul (OddsAgainst)October 11, 2025 at 5:35 PM

    If you define sex as intercourse, I don't.

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    1. Debbi (Enigma)October 11, 2025 at 5:39 PM

      What I'm saying is there was no oral, no anal, no intercourse. I didn't touch his genitals, he didn't touch mine. So, was there sex?

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    2. Debbi (Enigma)October 11, 2025 at 5:40 PM

      naked, we didn't touch naked. I should make that clear, context and all

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    3. Saul (OddsAgainst)October 11, 2025 at 5:43 PM

      I get what you're saying, but there were orgasms.

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    4. Debbi (Enigma)October 11, 2025 at 5:48 PM

      He masturbated, I masturbated. In my mind, orgasm does not equal sex.

      Delete
  2. SassyOctober 11, 2025 at 6:06 PM

    It sounds like you had a great time and and I am happy for you!!
    It is great that you are moving forward!!!!

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    1. Debbi (Enigma)October 12, 2025 at 8:16 AM

      Thanks, we had a blast! I can’t wait till next Friday!

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    2. SassyOctober 12, 2025 at 9:02 AM

      You truly needed to have a fun time and let loose!!

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    3. Debbi (Enigma)October 12, 2025 at 9:34 AM

      I did. It’s been a tough few months

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  3. JNOctober 11, 2025 at 7:21 PM

    As I recall, you got the inversion table to help you with your back pain . . . now I think there was another reason you got the table ;)

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    1. Debbi (Enigma)October 12, 2025 at 8:17 AM

      Lmao. I really did get it for my back but will admit other ideas popped in my head, too.

      I can’t even use the damn inversion table because of the stenosis in my carotid anyway

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  4. AnonymousOctober 11, 2025 at 8:27 PM

    Hmmm mutual masturbation is dang close to sex. Screw the definitions, what matters is you had fun. - smarty

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    1. Debbi (Enigma)October 12, 2025 at 8:19 AM

      I was going to explain because it wasn’t that either, but ya know what? It doesn’t matter. You’re right, we had fun. That’s what counts

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  5. Bow and Arrow ManOctober 12, 2025 at 5:14 AM

    I'm shocked, corrupted and even disgusted reading this post!

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    1. Debbi (Enigma)October 12, 2025 at 8:20 AM

      Bwahahahha, was it because I didn’t write the whole sexual experience?

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    2. SassyOctober 12, 2025 at 9:01 AM

      Leave it to Spunky to be a little shocked and corrupted by your post....

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    3. Bow and Arrow ManOctober 12, 2025 at 9:03 AM

      I am an innocent at heart and only seek refuge here from the filth of AFF!

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    4. Debbi (Enigma)October 12, 2025 at 9:35 AM

      Right Sassy?

      BAM: don’t your write some of that filth?

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    5. Saul (OddsAgainst)October 12, 2025 at 9:38 AM

      BaAM, 😂

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    6. Saul (OddsAgainst)October 12, 2025 at 9:45 AM

      😂. Tell us another one.

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    7. SassyOctober 12, 2025 at 9:50 AM

      Oh lordy..... I am off to do laundry and have breakfast.....

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    8. Debbi (Enigma)October 12, 2025 at 10:27 AM

      Sassy and Odds, he’s doing that delulu thing again 😂

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    9. Saul (OddsAgainst)October 12, 2025 at 10:34 AM

      Not just a river in Egypt.

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    10. Debbi (Enigma)October 12, 2025 at 11:30 AM

      It is not Saul.
      BAM, are you saying the above is not tasteful? Shoot, I could have gone into far more detail that would have made you men cringe. I was trying to be kind. LMFAO

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    11. Debbi (Enigma)October 12, 2025 at 11:31 AM

      Let's just say my favorite kink entered the picture. :P

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    12. Saul (OddsAgainst)October 12, 2025 at 11:33 AM

      😬

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    13. Bow and Arrow ManOctober 12, 2025 at 11:39 AM

      Detail would have made it more tasteful.

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    14. Debbi (Enigma)October 12, 2025 at 3:13 PM

      Leave it to you to think so BAM

      Delete

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